After five and a half decades of swallowing feelings of hurt, rejection, sadness, a break through moment into becoming the woman she has always known was missing was deeply felt as the wife of a couple I have been working with was able to tell her husband, “I...
Yesterday after the Senate failed to pass background check legislation a woman in the gallery yelled, “Shame on you!” Today, President Obama, in response to this the vote to not enlarge background checks, declared “All in all, today was a pretty...
Recently presented on Anger and its roll in relationship to the Divorce Support Group at University Presbyterian Church in Seattle. Steve Elde, Pastoral Care Associate of UPC shares; “With his insights and his understanding of how people react to emotions in...
As an Emotion Focused Therapist my first and perhaps most import task is to create a trusted connection between myself and my clients. Without a trusted connection no real progress in therapy can be made. This video from the Cleveland Clinic so poignantly captures...
We all know what it feels like to have emotion take over. We or our partner becomes too assertive, or conversely withdrawn. We have just entered the “spin cycle.” In the “spin cycle,” pursuers ramp up their efforts. At first they attempt to...
I am coming to learn, sometimes the hard way, that it is very difficult to “let things go!” For me to let something go, I must first feel, feel, feel…the pain in order to heal the pain. Denying pain, sorrow, hopelessness, disconnection can work for a...
