We all know what it feels like to have emotion take over. We or our partner becomes too assertive, or conversely withdrawn. We have just entered the “spin cycle.” In the “spin cycle,” pursuers ramp up their efforts. At first they attempt to...
I am coming to learn, sometimes the hard way, that it is very difficult to “let things go!” For me to let something go, I must first feel, feel, feel…the pain in order to heal the pain. Denying pain, sorrow, hopelessness, disconnection can work for a...
I recently studied with Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., a leading clinician and researcher on Trauma/PTSD and chronic relational trauma, to which many of us are exposed in childhood. A core takeaway: help your friends, family and loved ones “calm down” with...
